This is Shannon and this is Her Story . A testimony speaks of ones story of triumph, of overcoming different tests and trials. As I think back, I’ve overcome a lot! There were some time periods and situations that I didn’t think I’d ever see the other side of! But God! I’m so grateful for Jeremiah 29:11. God’s plans for me are so much greater than I could ever imagine!
I grew up in a single parent home, me, my sister, and my mom in a small town in Georgia. I never got a chance to meet my dad. He was killed by his wife before I was born. Nope, my mom was not his wife. I didn’t realize what was really going on in my life until I was old enough to understand what drugs were and why my mom wasn’t like my best friend’s mom and why my home wasn’t as safe and secure as other homes. When I would come home from school, I never knew what to expect. Some days there would be drugs and alcohol and no food and other days there’d be food and quiet. I loved my mom and I’ve forgiven her for all that she’s put us through but it took a while. So many times I lived in fear of getting the phone call that my mom had died from a drug overdose or from being beaten badly by one of her boyfriends or someone she owed money to for drugs. On the flip side, when she wasn’t high, she was funny and sweet and everyone loved her. We grew to have a great friendship as I got older. She later died of a massive heart attack one month after we’d had our first child. I choose to remember the good. I choose to remember the laughter and there was lots. I truly do miss her.
After graduating high school, I attended Georgia State University for a few years until I was expelled because of a 1.5 GPA. I was so depressed and didn’t realize it until it was too late. When I got to college, the only person I had to worry about was myself and that’s when I let loose, like really let loose. I thrived on the attention from the abundance of guys on and off campus. I partied, I went where I wanted to go with whom I wanted. It all covered up the pain I hadn’t dealt with from home. I was quite promiscuous and since no one had ever really told me anything about sex except to not get pregnant or get a disease, sex outside of marriage was what you did. It was a way of life. I didn’t have sex with everyone I met, only those I was in a relationship with. I loved the attention and I always had to be in a relationship. I did finally get help with the depression and I enrolled into a different college where I would meet my future husband. He graduated first, then I graduated, with honors may I add, and soon after I graduated, we got married.
Now, before we got married, we started off as most couples do. In sin, sex outside of marriage, he moved in with me, the usual hot mess! When I say that God had a different plan! My goodness! While he and I were dating, he attended this small Baptist church with me and there were a few people there who’d befriended us and found out that we were living together outside of marriage. They taught us that living together and not being married was wrong and basically told us that we needed to get married or he needed to move out. Before he got the chance to move out, God intervened and things started falling apart! My future husband lost his jobs, he had 2, he wrecked his car, I lost my job, and my car broke down. No job and no money meant no rent money and so we were evicted. I moved in with my friend and he moved in with some guys he knew from college and we were miserable. We decided to marry and met with our pastor who told us to stop having sex and get married as soon as possible. He asked a few other questions and that was it. Looking back, my husband and I now call that meeting with our then pastor ‘bootleg counseling’! He taught us nothing about marriage! We went into marriage very blindly! Once we’d made up our minds to do things God’s way, we started to see God’s hand and favor! We were shown favor with the purchasing of our rings, my dress, my hair and the hotel! We married and was pregnant with our first child not long after.
This was only the beginning of where God was leading me to start the ministry that I have now, Savin’ it for Hubby. As I said before, neither my husband nor I truly understood what sex was or the repercussions of having sex outside of marriage. Within the first 5 years of our marriage, guilt and shame began to torture me. Where before marriage I had no qualms about having sex, in marriage all the things I’d done before began to haunt and torture me! It had gotten to the point where I just didn’t want to have sex at all and of course my husband was not pleased with this. He was confused to say the least because we now had the green light, we had God’s permission and blessing to have sex. It got so bad that we had even began to discuss divorce. Then one day after a really bad argument, I was lying on our bed crying and I remember hearing, “I want you to teach My daughters My truth about sex.” Of course I thought I’d lost my mind because I knew nothing about sex and I barely knew God. It would be the first of many conversations with God and my journey of healing began. The first thing He had me do was to share my testimony on Facebook! Oh my goodness I tried to fight that and I just didn’t want to put all my ‘business’ out for the world to judge but when God says move, you move and He doesn’t leave you alone until you do so! I shared it and I waited in anxious nervousness for all the ridicule but instead, the responses of ‘me too’ began to trickle in. I then began blogging and that’s when God gave me the name of Savin’ it for Hubby. Through blogging, sharing my story and sharing all that God was teaching me about sex, my healing came. From there I led online bible studies about sex and purity, I helped create and facilitated a purity program at my church for 4 years and now I’m hosting and facilitating purity retreats for women 20 years and older to help them deal with the pain of their past or guilt and shame of their present, teaching them God’s truth about sex, purity and who they are in Him. I absolutely love what I do and I couldn’t imagine doing anything else! That’s #herstory so what’s yours ?